Have you ever lied to your pediatrician about what your child has or has not accomplished on the developmental milestone chart? Well, I have…I admit it. I’ve lied through my teeth.
Maybe your shaking your head yes, I’ve lied too OR your mortified about how could I.
Its not that I’m a bad Mom. It’s the pressure I feel about having my son meet these milestones and the guilt I feel for not pushing him simply because I want my baby to be a baby.
I went in for my son’s 19thmonth checkup and the nurse practitioner asked me if he was sleeping in his own bed. I looked her in the eye and said, “Yes, he is.” Knowing full well that I co-sleep with him just like I did with his older sister. I love snuggling up to him at night and enjoy seeing his smiling face in the morning. I know we are not the only family who co-sleeps with our kids. I just feel a little guilty for my little lie.
As a teacher, the days go by fast and I have put off tackling some toddler milestones until summer time. Such as the bottle. I’ve honestly do not wish to take it away. I still rock the little one sometimes to sleep and give him a bottle to soothe him. It’s a special time for us and I love to sing to him and hug him as he drinks his bottle.
Another item I’ve procrastinated on is the pacifier. OKAY, deep breath… I have another confession… His sister, Ellie, didn’t get off the pacifier until she was 4!… I know… The HORROR!!! The pacifier fairy came and gave Ellie a beautiful rainbow guitar for her pacifier. It was a miracle that she gave it up but she was ready and didn’t even think twice about the pacifier after that. So, I’m really not in a huge rush to have Ean off the pacifier. Only when he is ready.
When the nurse practitioner was about to leave the room for Ean’s check-up, she looked at me and said Ean should join a Mommy’s Morning Day Out because he has severe attachment issues. I commented that I think at his age he should be attached to his Momma. Besides, she just probed him and pulled on his circumcision. You would be screaming bloody murder too.
When the nurse practitioner walked out of the room , it occurred to me that we were just a checkmark or an X on the milestone checklist to her. If I feel pressure at regular pediatric check-ups, I cant imagine what my little one will feel when he takes school standardized tests. This is one reason why I lie to my pediatrician because I want simply for my baby to be a baby and a child to be a child. Is that too much to ask for in our society?